Parents of the groom etiquette states they will pay for:
- the rehearsal dinner
- the groom’s cake, if applicable (Southern tradition – displayed either at the rehearsal dinner or with the wedding cake; definitely more manly)
- their attire (best for the mother of the groom to check with the mother of the bride so they’re not wearing clashing outfits)
- and…that’s it. Sometimes, the groom’s family will pay for the bar at the wedding. Sometimes.
Honestly, these days, though, if the groom’s family offered to pay for more, I highly doubt the groom, the bride or her family will turn them down. Weddings are a billion dollar a year industry because they cost a lot of money. So, if you’re the groom, bride or part of the bride’s family and you have a bit of a pride issue when it comes to accepting money from the groom’s family, swallow that pride like it’s a tasty slice of wedding cake. You’ll have plenty of other things to spend your money on when it comes to this wedding.
During the ceremony, the parents of the groom will sit in the first pew at a Christian ceremony, however, during a Jewish ceremony, they will escort their son down the aisle and stand by his side at the huppah. At the reception, the mother of the groom will do the mother-son dance while the father ensures the bar is fully stocked (which is probably where he is anyway). Prior to the wedding, it is a good idea for the groom and bride to bring the groom’s parents into the planning stages. You don’t have to take their advice, but, as they don’t have much to do with the whole wedding procedure and the groom is their son, it will make them feel like a bigger part of the whole event.
As you can see, the parents of the groom get off pretty easily when you take into consideration all of the costs and responsibilities involved in a wedding. Not only that, they’re not losing a son, they’re gaining a daughter! No wonder every mother is constantly pushing her son to “find a nice girl, settle down and get married”!