Wedding Flowers Etiquette 101

Wedding Flower Etiquette

by Claire Valenty on October 24, 2010

in Wedding Etiquette

You cannot help but think of flowers when you are envisioning a wedding. Of course, there are the basics: the bride’s bouquet; the bridesmaids’ bouquets; and the centerpieces. And then there are the groom’s and the groomsmen boutonnieres. And then the mother of the bride corsage and the mother of the groom corsage and so much more! To help you out with the flowers that are present at most weddings, we have put this etiquette reference guide together!

Choosing Your Wedding Flowers

Based on your budget and tastes, you can have extraordinary displays of flowers in your wedding or just simple bouquets; the choice is completely yours – there is no right or wrong way. Just be sure to find a florist you are comfortable with and be very upfront with what you are looking for as far as the budget, the venue, the general feel of the event, swatches of the dresses, etc. Florists are not mind readers and being as clear as possible will help them do their job and help make your wedding flower dreams come true! Also, asking for mockups of everything is completely acceptable (and a smart idea!).

The Bride and Bridesmaids’ Bouquets and Flower Girl’s Flowers
Traditionally, the parents of the bride purchase the bridesmaids’ bouquets and flower girl’s flowers and the groom purchases the bride’s bouquet as a wedding gift. The maid/matron of honor might have a slightly larger bouquet than the other bridesmaids to set her apart. Of course, it will still be nowhere near as fabulous as the bride’s!

The Groom and Groomsmen Boutonnieres
Traditionally, the parents of the groom purchase these, as well as corsages for the mothers and grandmothers of the bride and groom. Further information about how to wear corsages can be found here. Again, the best man’s boutonniere can be a bit more intricate than the other groomsmen, to set him apart, but, not as fancy as the groom’s. The boutonnieres should be pinned on the left side, as it is closest to the heart with the stem facing down over a button hole (but, not in the button hole!). For the same reason, corsages are worn on the left during a wedding, whether they are wrist or pin corsages.

Rehearsal Dinner, Ceremony and Reception Flowers
Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner flowers are purchased by the groom’s family. The ceremony and reception flowers are purchased by the parents of the bride.

If you are on a tight budget or someone attending your wedding has severe allergies, faux flowers are always an alternative. Just make sure they are amazing replicas or that they are in a location no one can get close enough to examine! - 728x90 banner

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Sheryl Strothers February 16, 2012 at 5:23 am

I love this website!!! I am a big fan of etiquette and it rarely exists any more. Thank you for taking the time to provide this information.

Grace Ostrander August 2, 2018 at 12:28 am

Does the mother of the groom pin the grooms boutonaire on him?

Nilda de la Torre September 6, 2018 at 11:07 pm

Where budget is tight, can you mix faux flowers ?? such as for the center pieces and other tables etc, with the bride, maids etc real flowers?

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