Wedding guest list etiquette states you invite whom you want to your wedding. It’s your wedding! But, we all know that isn’t always the case – those who won’t get invited sometimes get a little upset, not realizing that venue and budget limitations affect your choice. Following these wedding list etiquette tips will help you minimize hurt feelings.
Before you can even choose your venue, you need to get a rough headcount of your guests. You need to figure out:
• how many people you want to invite
• how many people your future spouse wants to invite
• how many people your parents want to invite
• how many people your future spouse’s parents want to invite
These can include friends, family and co-workers. It may seem childish, but, you do have to take into consideration, “If I invite so and so, I have to invite so and so.” If your budget allows for this, then do it; it’s a lot easier than dealing with the attitude. If you can’t, then don’t worry about those that aren’t invited; they’ll get over it.
After you have this initial count, the next step is to decide if your guests will be able to bring guests of their own. You might have a certain venue in mind that might limit this or might allow for some people to bring guests and others not.
Another constraint is the menu. If you have an expensive main dish and a small budget, you’re going to have to limit your guest list.
Once you have your list, if you’re within your venue and budget limits, you’re good to go and you’ve followed the proper wedding guest etiquette! If not, then you’ll have to meet with your future spouse, your parents and their parents and figure out who will not be able to attend. This is a time of compromise on everyone’s part. It may not seem like your parents should have such a say, but, they are paying for most of this and having their child get married is a proud moment in their life; they want to show you off to their friends. Let them, but, don’t let them go overboard where you don’t even recognize those attending your wedding!